For many years I have always had a more negative understanding of the world and the view I have of myself and like so many other people who are unfortunately the majority, this has often made me embrace the emptiness, cling to my faults and failures and let the four walls inside me take over my greater self, which at the same time both of us wanted to pluck them.

The black days without the possibility of a broad perspective of a continuously sunny future were also part of my present.

It was around March 2018 that I began to feel differently. And here I refer a little to the common-sense question of “Who was born first? The chicken or the egg “correlating in a way, I think with a more scientific end to” Did I start to feel better because I was doing things or was I doing things because I felt better? “(Well, for a scientific study I would not ask the question in this way but I think we all got there).

There is an intrinsic truth that fights every day with our thoughts set on negativity that sadly we call realism. The intrinsic truth will then be to do things. More concretely  pushing our self to do things, things that please us even when we can not do them … or when we think we can not.

This intrinsic truth within me came out in March 2018 and when I pulled myself to have a positive thought I noticed how much my life has changed and how much I could change my life for the better.

It has been a mindset that I have never left since then, even when I encounter obstacles in life, one’s being more relevant than others but it doesn’t make me detract from the theory of ” the happiness advantage”, when the positivism in someone is in proportion to success. Being that we produce more dopamine (a neurotransmitter of our nervous system) that makes us happier so to speak, but also triggers the learnings centers in the brain.

Then, so it comes positive psychology. One should not think of positive psychology as motivational phrases clichés that irritate anyone but rather as an investigation into the positive personality of the individual, subjective well-being and teaching of resilience or potentially healthy and positive aspects of humans as opposed to classical psychology that places more emphasis on psychopathological aspects.

And using positive psychology in our quotidian is to outline the positive things of our day instead of just murmuring about negative or boring things that happened. Let us not forget that the absence of disease will not be entirely synonymous with being healthy and that it is important to focus on building our self around our strengths and qualities and embracing the challenges of life not being afraid to look forward to an error.

We can only predict 10% of someone’s long-term happiness if we consider about their external world but 90% of happiness will be by the way their brain processes the world. So, “reality does not shape us necessarily but the lenses by which our brain sees the world” (Alison Ledgerwood).

Not wanting to be boring, to finish we can highlight the good things in life by creating more positive habits. A habit creates new neural pathways and if we practice an activity for 21 days becomes a truth and a habit for us. These activities are good for beginning a thought of happiness advantage:

• Write good things that happened that day and talking to someone about gratitude (it also helps to relive those memories);

• Meditation (in which in the future it will help in the focus of accomplishing one task and not being in the confusion of several);

Acts of kindness which are considered the greatest revolutions.

With this, like everything being easier said than done and certaintely not being a cure for pathological disorders, I think it is a good initiation path for each one of us.

 There is beauty everywhere, the important thing is to believe to see.